If you are reading this section because you are planning your wedding – congratulations! The people of our parish offer our sincere good wishes now and throughout the years ahead. May you have blessings in all your preparations and all the days of your life together.
In the Catholic Church, marriage is one of the seven sacrament and Catholics believe that marriage between any two baptised Christians, as long as it is entered into with the intention to contract a true marriage, is recognized and validated by God Himself.
The Catholic Church carefully distinguishes between a civil marriage and the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony. Civil marriage is regulated by civil law and there are civil regulations and legislation which govern this contract. In a parallel way, a Sacramental Marriage is governed by Church (canon) Law and Church regulations. Both sets of laws and regulations often mirror each other but there are some very significant divergences. This is particularly true with regard to the permanence of marriage. Civil law allows for the dissolution of marriage through divorce. Church teaching does not. Similarly, Catholic Church teaching only allows for a Sacramental Marriage to be solemnised between a man and a woman.
First Steps For Weddings In Our Parish
- First, find a fiancé!
- At least six months before you intend to be married, arrange a wedding date.
- However do not finally decide on a date until you confirm that either Oranmore or Maree church is available. Do this by contacting the Parish Office.
- If your chosen date is free, request a Wedding Booking Form from the Parish Office.
- When you are booking a Church in our parish for your wedding you are not necessarily booking a priest of the parish.
If you wish a priest of the parish to celebrate your wedding service, you must contact either Fr. Diarmuid or Fr. Martin directly by email with details of the date and time of your wedding.
You are welcome to invite any priest who is ‘in good standing’ with the Catholic Church to be the celebrant.
The following applies to the marriages of Irish, unmarried Catholics. In other circumstances, contact Fr. Diarmuid or Fr. Martin for advice and information!
- The following applies whether or not Fr. Diarmuid or Fr. Martin are the celebrant –
If you are resident in the Parish of Oranmore, arrange to meet Fr. Diarmuid or Fr. Martin at least six months prior to your wedding day to complete the required paperwork.
If you are resident in a parish other than Oranmore, arrange to meet the Parish Priest in your parish of residence at least six months prior to your wedding day to complete the required paperwork.
If both bride and groom are resident in different parishes, they can arrange to either go to their respective Parish Priests or, by tradition, both bride and groom can have their paperwork completed by the Parish Priest of the bride.
- The priest will complete a Pre-Nuptial Form with both the bride and the groom.
The Pre-Nuptial Form has a series of questions which seeks to establish:
- who you are
- that you are free to marry
- that you understand and agree with the teaching of Catholic Church on marriage
Both bride and groom will be asked to take an oath that the information given is true and each Pre-Nuptial Form must be signed, dated and witnessed.
- The priest will require from both bride and groom:
- A recent Baptismal Certificate – obtainable from the parish wherein you were baptised.
- A Confirmation Certificate – obtainable from the parish wherein you were confirmed.
- The priest will require a Pre-Marriage Course completion certificate.
For weddings in the Diocese of Galway, Kilmacduagh and Kilfenora participation by both bride and groom in a Pre-Marriage Course is a requirement.
Please note that in the Diocese of Galway, Kilmacduagh and Kilfenora some advertised Pre-Marriage Courses are NOT acceptable.
ACCORD Courses are acceptable, as are courses at Esker and Mount Argus. For Pre-Marriage Courses other than these, seek advice from Fr. Diarmuid or Fr. Martin.
- The priest will require documentary reassurance that both bride and groom are free to marry.
He will outline what is needed in the individual circumstances before him.
He may ask for a sworn affidavit from the bride and/or groom or the parents of the bride and/or groom that they are not previously married.
He may require Letters of Freedom. A Letter of Freedom is a statement on oath from the Parish Priest of a Parish where the bride or the groom have resided for more than six months, that, having examined the registers of his parish, he is satisfied that the person concerned did not contract marriage while resident there.
This requirement may appear onerous but it rarely is!
- If the wedding is to be celebrated in the Parish of Oranmore this paperwork is retained in the Parish Office.
If the wedding is to be celebrated in a parish other than Oranmore this paperwork is forwarded to the Parish wherein the wedding is to be celebrated.
If the wedding is to be celebrated in the Parish of Oranmore and the paperwork has been completed elsewhere, it is forwarded to the Parish of Oranmore.
- Civil Law requires that you provide at least three months notice of your intention to marry with the Civil Registrar and the priest.
For information on the requirements for a valid civil marriage in Ireland see http://www.hse.ie/eng/services/list/1/bdm/marriagesinireland/
- For further information, advice and support on all aspects of marriage in the Catholic Church see https://www.accord.ie
A wedding in a Catholic Church is a religious ceremony, giving praise to God and asking Him for his grace and blessings on the man and woman who are to be married. While the love shared between the bride and groom is acknowledged and celebrated, the wedding ceremony in the church is not the time, nor the place, for wholly secular songs.
It is also true to say that, since the structure, tone and intention of the liturgy serves to worship God, music and song which does not have this aim always tends to jar the congregation, tends to upset the atmosphere and, much more often that not, tends to sound out of place. In the same way as hymns are generally excluded from the play-list at a wedding reception, it makes for a much more cohesive and appropriate liturgy if secular songs are omitted from the wedding ceremony. There are ample opportunities, in the course of a long day of celebration for such songs to be sung, appreciated and enjoyed.
Finally, since in all likelihood the priest who is celebrating a wedding has participated in significantly more weddings than anyone else in the church, and since he has the ultimate responsibility, training, experience, authority and expertise to ensure that all weddings celebrated by him are respectful and appropriate, ASK HIM FOR HIS ADVICE before choosing wedding music. Rely on him rather than solely on wedding singers and musicians for the best advice.
The Following Is A Basic List Of Suitable Material And Some Liturgical Pointers
- Entrance Procession:Instrumental Music at any liturgy contributes greatly to the creation of both a festive and reflective atmosphere. Its traditional use at the wedding liturgy is at the entrance of the Bride and the Recessional Procession of the wedding party. It can also be very effective at the Presentation of the Gifts, Signing of the Register, and before the ceremony as the community gather. As well as organ music, music from our own Irish tradition works very well.
- Gloria:If sung, a known setting, so that people may be able to sing.
Liturgy Of The Word
- Responsorial Psalm:A psalm is primarily a song from scripture, and therefore needs to be sung. Substituting something other than a psalm at this point would be incorrect.The soloist leads and all should respond.
Sé an Tiarna m’Aoire (Ps 22) F. O’Carroll All the earth proclaim the Lord (Ps 99) L. Deiss In you creation finds its joy (Ps 64) R. McDonagh Lord, show us your mercy and love (Ps 85) J. Cotter May your love be upon us, O Lord (Ps 32) M. Daly Mo grá thú a Thiarna (Ps 17) L. Lawton On eagles wings (Ps 90) M. Joncas The Lord is kind and merciful (Ps 103) J. Cotter The Lord is my shepherd (Ps 22) T. Egan Throughout all time (Ps 89) D. Hass
- Gospel Acclamation:Generally Alleluia (except during Lent) is a “festal shout‟.Again it calls to be sung.
Chant Alleluia Traditional Celtic Alleluia F. O’Carroll Seinn Alleluia Traditional Pilgrim Alleluia L. Lawton
The lyrics of the now popular Leonard Cohen ‘halleluiah’ are not at all suitable.
Liturgy Of The Eucharist
- Presentation of the Gifts
- Eucharistic Acclamations
- Our Father:As the great prayer of unity, it is never a solo piece, whether said or sung.If sung, it is sung by all – a sung solo version contradicts what the prayer is all about.
- Communion Hymn
- Post Communion Hymn:For all the above, the following are generally suitable:
Ag an bPósadh a bhí i gCana Traditional Bridegroom and Bride Slane / Iona Fíon agus Uisce M. Ní Dhuibhir Love never fails D. Hass Love one another F. King Servant Song R. Gillard Song of Ruth G. Norbert Today and tomorrow L. True When love is found Traditional Where your treasure is M. Haugen Wherever you go D. Hass Eat this bread Taizè I am the bread of life S. Toolan I will be the vine L. Lawton Let us be bread blest by the Lord T. Porter One bread that is broken F. King Take and Eat M. Joncas A Íosa M. Ní Dhuibhir Ag Críost an síol S. O’ Riada All I ask of you G. Norbert (not Phantom) Be still for the presence of the Lord A. Adams Faith, Hope and Love R.McDonagh Increase our Faith D. Hass My song will be for you forever D. Hass O God you search me B. Farrell Set your heart on the higher gifts S. Warner The hiding place L. Lawton This is my will Traditional Make me a channel of your peace Traditional You are mine D. Hass
Some further notes:
- A piece of music or a hymn just because it is nice or liked by the couple doesn’t always make it suitable for the liturgy. For example ‘Pie Jesu’ is a text from the Funeral Liturgy.
- The Lighting of Candles – both times – is a very short ritual. Music or song should be brief, if at all; there is hardly space for more than a verse of a hymn, otherwise it is intrusive. Incidental instrumental music works the best.
- Pieces from the classical repertoire such as ‘Ave Maria’, ‘Panis Angelicus’, and ‘Laudate Dominum’ , since they do not find a natural home in the liturgy, are best used as a reflective piece after Holy Communion or at the signing of the register.
- There are many competent, experienced musicians and singers available who understand the structure and requirements of liturgy and who know what is and is not appropriate.However there are also many skilled musicians and singers who are not sensitive to the religious nature of the wedding ceremony and who seek to impose the songs and pieces they know best, whatever the context.A wedding is not the place for ‘party pieces’.Choose wisely !
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Music for your Wedding / Book & CD
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